改变思维26:你的生活在一连串的启示中展开

50 PEOPLE  on the most  LIBERATING  thought they’ve  EVER HAD

有着前所未有的自由思想的50个人

Your life unfolds in a succession of revelations.

你的生活在一连串的启示中展开。

It’s when you set down the book and stare ahead and repeat the sentence in your mind again and again, apply it to every little thing you twist to make applicable. You answer questions you didn’t know you were asking, tie ends you left off years ago.

就是当你放下书,凝视前方,在脑海中一遍又一遍地重复这句话,把它应用到你扭曲的每一件小事上。你回答了你不知道自己在问的问题,解了你几年前放弃的结。

The key to a completely liberating thought is that it’s self-evident. It’s proven itself in your experience. It doesn’t have to solve the problem; it has to help you understand why you had it in the first place.

完全解放思想的重点是它是不言而喻的。你的经验证明了这一点。它不必解决问题;但它一定会帮助你理解为什么你一开始就有它。

Every conscious thought you have either circles you back into the mental cycle you’re in, or it liberates you from it.

你的每一个有意识的想法要么把你带回你所处的心理周期,要么把你从中解放出来。

Some cycles are healthy; some are not. Some you want to maintain; some you don’t. Some you want to change and you know you want to change them. Some you want to change and you don’t know you want to change them. Some you need to change and you don’t know how.

一些周期是健康的;有些不是。有些是你想要维持的;有些你不想。有些你想改变,并且你知道你想改变他们。有些你想改变,但你不知道你想改变他们。有些你需要改变,但你不知道如何改变。

I think your life improves in direct proportion to how often you are put in situations in which you have no choice but to seek a greater truth. That is something I think. People who are comfortable don’t have to keep reading, or searching, or seeking. They don’t grow because they don’t have to. (A sad but important thing to know about humans is that they don’t change until not changing is the less comfortable option.)

我认为你的生活质量的提高与你被置于除了寻求更大真理之外别无选择的境地的频率成正比。这是我认为的。舒适的人不必一直阅读、搜索或寻找。它们不生长是因为它们不必生长。(关于人类,一件令人悲伤但重要的事情是,只有在不改变的情况下,人类才会改变,这是一个不太舒服的选择。)

 I know that my success has been directly proportionate to my suffering. That is something I know. That is the experience to which I have arrived at the aforementioned theory.

我知道我的成功与我的痛苦成正比。这是我了解的,也就是这些经验我得出上述理论。

At this point, the most liberating thought I have ever had is that I would not change a thing. Everything in my life served a purpose, the darkest and shittiest and terrible and most self-destructive among them. They all brought me here.

在这一点上,我有过的最自由的想法是我不会改变任何事情。我生命中的一切都有目的,其中有最黑暗、最卑鄙、最可怕、最自毁。他们都把我带到这里来。

I was never crazy. I was the product of my circumstances. (That one took a long time to completely acknowledge.) But it’s true: I responded and reacted and behaved the way any normal, healthy, functioning person would and should.

我从来没有疯过,我是我所处环境的产物。(这件事花了很长时间才完全承认。)但这是真的:我的反应、反应和行为都像任何一个正常、健康、有功能的人一样。

I wasn’t supposed to be happy. Had I responded well or complacently, I would have ended up where I was headed. I would have lived the life other people imposed on me. I would have actually constituted for being mentally ill.

我本来不应该高兴的。如果我的反应很好或很自满,我就会走到我要去的地方。我会过别人强加给我的生活。事实上,我会被认为患有精神病。

It was crucial that I didn’t have it together or consistently feel good.

重要的是,我没把它放在一起或一直感觉良好。

I grew out of my suffering by being able to perceive what was wrong and uncomfortable, really without knowing any differently. How incredible is that? That we can know when something is wrong even if we aren’t entirely sure what the opposite would be?

我从痛苦中解脱出来,因为我能够觉察到什么是错的,什么是不舒服的,真的没有任何不同的认识。这有多不可思议?即使我们不能完全确定相反的情况,我们也能知道什么时候出了问题?

There’s not a good thing in the world that was not built of a thousand tiny revolutions, and people are no exception. I wanted to compile a series of not only the most liberating thoughts—the revelations that have changed and shaped and created me—but also other people’s. Here, 49 strangers shared theirs (one is mine), in hopes that maybe some of them can be yours as well.

世界上没有一件好事不是由一千次微小的革命创造的,人们也不例外。我想汇编一系列最解放的思想——改变、塑造和创造我的启示——以及其他人的启示。在这里,49个陌生人分享了他们的思想(其中一个是我的),希望其中一些也能是你的。

01. “I get to choose what I think about.” 

“我可以选择我想什么。”

02. “I don’t owe anybody an apology for disagreeing with them.” 

“我不应该因为不同意他们的观点而向任何人道歉。”

03. “You can have everything you want, just not at the same time, and if you think that’s unfortunate, consider that if you had everything at once, you wouldn’t really experience or enjoy it completely.” 

“你可以拥有你想要的一切,只是不能同时拥有。如果你认为这很不幸,想想如果你同时拥有了一切,你就不会真正体验或完全享受它。”

04. “You can choose your family. You can choose your religion. You can choose who you are every day and it doesn’t have to be the same person you were yesterday. You do not have to become only what other people are comfortable with or can understand.” 

“你可以选择你的家庭。你可以选择你的宗教。你可以选择你每天是谁,而不必是昨天的你。你不必只成为其他人感到舒适或能够理解的人。”

05. “My life does not define me, I define my life. This moment is not my life, this is a moment in my life.”

“我的生活没有定义我,我定义我的生活。这一刻不是我的生活,这是我生活中的一刻。”

06. “Everything I perceive is a projection of who I am. If I want to change my life, I change myself.” 

“我所感知的一切都是我是谁的投影。如果我想改变我的生活,我就改变自己。”

07. “I don’t have to accept anything. I don’t have to change everything.” 

“我不必接受任何东西。我不必改变一切。”

08. “Freedom is a state of mind.” 

“自由是一种心态。”

09. “There is nothing you can have forever, but there are many things you’ll miss experiencing if you’re too busy trying to keep them rather than love them while you have them.” 

“没有什么是你可以永远拥有的,但是如果你太忙了,试图留住它们,而不是在拥有它们的时候爱它们,那么你会错过很多经历。”

10. “There are so many kinds of love worth pursuing, other than romantic love. There are so many experiences to have, other than just happiness. Anything other than ideal is not failure. It’s life. It’s what we’re made for and meant for.”

“除了浪漫的爱情,还有太多值得追求的爱。除了幸福之外,还有太多值得拥有的经历。除了理想之外,任何东西都不是失败。这是生活。这是我们注定要做的事。”

11. “I am a person of value. I deserve happiness. I deserve to be kind to myself. I deserve love.” 

“我是一个有价值的人。我应该幸福。我应该善待自己。我应该得到爱。”

12. “I will get over what I am struggling with in the very same way I got over the other things I thought I never could. That’s the most comforting thought, in my opinion: comparing what you’re going through to what you’ve been through, and knowing you have what it takes to get through it.” 

“我会以同样的方式克服我正在努力克服的事情,就像我克服了我认为我永远无法克服的其他事情一样。在我看来,这是最令人欣慰的想法:将你正在经历的事情与你已经经历的事情进行比较,并知道你需要什么来度过它。”

13. “You don’t remember years, you remember moments.” 

“你不记得岁月,你记得时刻。”

14. “I’m not supposed to be anything other than what I am.” 

“除了我,我不应该成为任何人。”

15. “Nothing is permanent, not even the worst feelings.”

“没有什么是永恒的,即使是最糟糕的感觉。”

16. “I can change my experience just by deciding to see things differently. I may not be in control of what happens around and toward me, but I am always in control of how I see it, how I respond, and how I react. At the end of the day, that is all I am responsible for.” 

“我可以通过改变看待事物的方式来改变我的经历。我可能无法控制周围和对我来说发生的事情,但我始终可以控制我如何看待它、如何回应和如何反应。归根结底,这就是我的全部责任。”

17. “Nobody cries at a funeral because the world will be missing out on another pretty face. They cry because the world is missing another heart, another soul, another person. Don’t wait until it’s too late to focus on what will actually matter: creating something that lasts far beyond your body.” 

“没有人因为这个世界将失去另一张美丽的脸在葬礼上哭泣。他们哭泣,因为这个世界失去了另一颗心,另一个灵魂,另一个人。不要等到太晚了才去关注真正重要的事情:创造一些远超你身体的东西。”

18. “People do not love you based on a flowchart on which they compare you to other people. People who are the prettiest and thinnest and best-off financially are not the most loved! They do not live the best lives! I have to remind myself that every time I start worrying more about what I look like than what I am.” 

“人们不会根据一个流程图来爱你,因为他们会将你与其他人进行比较。最漂亮、最苗条、经济状况最好的人并不是最受爱的人!他们并不是过着最好的生活!每次我开始担心自己长什么样,而不是担心自己是什么样的人,我都必须提醒自己。”

19. “The moment is all that exists. The cliché that tells you to live in it is overdone, but there’s no other option, really. It’s whether or not you’re paying attention that’s the problem.” 

那一刻就是一切。告诉你生活在其中的陈词滥调有些过头了,但真的没有其他选择。问题在于你是否在关注。”

20. “The way to get through anything is to embrace the fact that whatever comes, comes with reason, whatever stays, stays with reason, whatever hurts, hurts with reason. Ignoring or fighting the effect will not fix the cause.”

克服一切的方法是接受这样一个事实:无论什么事情发生,都有理由,无论什么事情存在,都有理由,无论什么伤害,都有理由。忽视或对抗后果并不能解决问题。”

21. “What you focus on expands.”

“你关注的东西会扩展。”

 22. “This, too, shall pass.” 

“这也会过去的。”

23. “I’ve always been compelled to act when I was meant to. I never had to think too hard about the things that were meant to be. I only had to be open to them.” 

“我总是被强迫去做我应该做的事。我从来没有想过要做的事。我只需要对他们敞开心扉。”

24. “What I went through made me who I am; what I’m going through will make me what I will be. What I choose to put my energy toward now will create that person. I decide. My circumstances don’t.” 

“我所经历的一切决定了我是谁;我所经历的一切将决定我将成为什么样的人。我现在选择把精力放在什么上面,就会创造出那个人。这是由我决定。而不是我的环境。”

25. “Never forget that you are not in the world; the world is in you. When anything happens to you, take the experience inward. Creation is set up to bring you constant hints and clues about your role as co-creator. Your soul is metabolizing experience as surely as your body is metabolizing food. (This is a quote from Deepak Chopra.)”

“永远不要忘记,你不在这个世界上,这个世界就在你心里。当你发生任何事情时,把体验带进内心。创造是为了给你带来关于你作为共同创造者角色的不断提示和线索。你的灵魂在代谢体验,就像你的身体在代谢食物一样。(这是迪帕克·乔普拉的一句话。)

26. “There is always a way…even when it least feels like it. There is always a way. There are different jobs, new ideas, apartments opening up across the country, flights leaving in the next hour to the places I’ve always wanted to go. There is a way to find the money, get the gig, find the love…there is always a way! I am never stuck, I am only in the mindset that I am.” 

“总有一条路……即使感觉最不舒服。总有一条路。全国各地都有不同的工作、新想法、公寓开放,下个小时就有航班飞往我一直想去的地方。总有一条路可以找到钱、找到工作、找到爱……总有一条路!我从来没有被困住,我只停留在自己的心态中。”

27. “There is no grand moment in life. You don’t wake up and say, ‘Aha! I’ve made it!’ Happiness is all in details, the joy is all in the journey. Always has been, always will be.” 

“生命中没有伟大的时刻。你不会醒来后说,‘啊哈!我成功了!’幸福是一切细节,快乐是旅途中的一切。一直都是,永远都是。”

28. “The purpose of being here is growth. Growth means being able to experience and see more because you are aware of it. The purpose of being here, then, is expanding awareness.” 

“在这里的目的是成长。成长意味着能够体验和看到更多,因为你意识到了它。因此,在这里的目的是扩大意识。”

29. “The worst things to happen to me were the things that had to teach me what nothing else could, to prepare me for things so wonderful, I couldn’t imagine them, let alone know I had to get ready for them.” 

“发生在我身上最糟糕的事情是那些必须教会我什么是其他人无法做到的事情,我要为如此美妙的事情做好准备,我无法想象它们,更不用说知道我必须为它们做好准备了。”

30. “You haven’t failed until you’ve stopped trying.”

“不停止尝试,你就不会失败。”

31. “I do not have to adopt other people’s problems as my own to help them.” 

“我不必把别人的问题当成自己的问题来帮助他们。”

32. “You do not have to be loved by everybody to be worthy of love.” 

“你不必被每个人都爱才值得爱。”

33. “The present is the only time. If you don’t start living in it, you don't really live at all.” 

“现在是唯一的时间。如果你不开始生活在其中,你就根本没有真正生活过。”

34. “You teach people how to treat you. You get in life what you have the courage to ask for.” 

“你教会人们如何对待你。你在生活中得到了你有勇气要求的东西。”

35. “My only regret, in my entire life, is just that I didn’t enjoy it more.”

“在我的一生中,我唯一的遗憾就是没有更多地享受它。”

36. “The things I’m meant to have will simply come to me. All I am responsible for is making sure I’m ready.” 

“我命中注定要拥有的东西只会来到我身边。我所负责的就是确保我准备好了。”

37. “Don’t take anything too seriously. Nobody gets out alive anyway.” 

“不要太认真。反正没人能活着出去。”

38. “I cannot change those around me. Real change happens one by one, each person doing the only thing they can: seeing where they can stand to improve as opposed to pointing fingers at the injustices they see in others.” 

“我无法改变我周围的人。真正的改变是一个接一个发生的,每个人都在做他们唯一能做的事情:看看他们能站在哪里改进,而不是指责他们在别人身上看到的不公正。”

39. “Wisdom is knowing that you don’t and will never really know anything. We used to believe the Earth was flat. A discovery changed that. You don’t know that we won’t discover we’re all robots in some matrix simulation, or I don’t know…the point is, wisdom is just being, not making sense of.” 

“智慧是知道你不知道也永远不会真正知道任何事情。我们过去认为地球是平的。一个发现改变了这一点。你不知道我们不会发现我们都是矩阵模拟中的机器人,或者我不知道……重点是,智慧只是存在,没有意义。”

40. “I once bought a train ticket for myself, and was on a trip that I completely funded, and realized that I can support myself, and I don’t have to answer or please anybody else. I work hard so I can live the way I want.”

“我曾经为自己买了一张火车票,在一次完全由我出资的旅行中,我意识到我可以养活自己,不必回答或取悦任何人。我努力工作,这样我就能过我想要的生活。”

41. “I am infinite. People always say: What would you do if you could live forever? Well, I’m here to say: If you believe your soul is eternal, you can…what are you doing with it now?” 

“我是无限的。人们总是说:如果你能永生,你会做什么?好吧,我在这里想说:如果你相信你的灵魂是永恒的,你可以……你现在会用它做什么?”

42. “Even if you abandon faith, hope, and love, they don’t leave you.” 

“即使你放弃了信仰、希望和爱,他们也不会离开你。”

43. “I am made of love and light. That is who I essentially am. Everything else is simply a disconnect. I am not one thing that has to be transformed into another…I am love and light, and I choose whether or not I remember that, or I decide to be blocked out of fear.” 

“我是由爱和光组成的。这就是我的本质。其他一切都只是一种脱节。我不是一件必须转换成另一件的东西……我是爱和光,我选择是否记住这一点,或者我决定被排除在恐惧之外。”

44. “When you step into a library, all the knowledge in the world is before you. When you wake up each day, all the possibility in the world is, too. You choose whether or not you just see books. You choose whether or not you just see another day.” 

“当你走进图书馆时,世界上所有的知识都在你面前。当你每天醒来时,世界上所有的可能性都在。你选择是否只看书。你选择是否只看另一天。”

45. “I am always one choice away from changing everything.”

“我总是离改变一切只有一个选择。”

46. “If I choose not to be upset, not to spend time feeling a certain way, then I do not feel upset. If I do not feel upset, then I have not been harmed. Marcus Aurelius said something similar, but I prefer it in my own words.” 

“如果我选择不难过,不花时间去感受某种方式,那么我就不会难过。如果我不难过,那么我就没有受到伤害。马库斯·奥雷利乌斯说过类似的话,但我更喜欢用我自己的话说。”

47. “There is immeasurable joy in the small things. In a great book, fresh vegetables, a warm bed, the arms of someone you love. These things, in our twisted world, are rarely valued, but in the end, they’re probably the most joy we’re going to have.” 

“小事中有无限的快乐。在一本好书中,新鲜的蔬菜,温暖的床,你爱的人的手臂。在我们这个扭曲的世界里,这些东西很少被重视,但最终,它们可能是我们将拥有的最快乐。”

48. “We take our lives way too seriously…in a few hundred years, most people will be completely forgotten about. That’s not depressing, that is liberating. Do what you can and make it hella good. Give love and do what you most genuinely want to. It won’t matter anyway, so make it matter now.” 

“我们把生活看得太认真了……几百年后,大多数人都会被完全遗忘。这不是沮丧,这是解放。做你能做的事,让它变得很好。给予爱,做你最真诚想要做的事。无论如何,这都无关紧要,所以现在就让它变得重要。”

49. “I do not have to be what other people see me as. I do not have to assume they know best.” 

“我不必成为别人眼中的我。我不必假设他们最了解我。”

50. “You’re going to be okay. Not because I said so, but because ‘okay’ is where we all end up, even if we fuck up entirely along the way.” (This is a Cheryl Strayed quote.)

“你会好起来的。不是因为我这么说,而是因为‘好’是我们所有人的结局,即使我们一路上都搞砸了。”(这是谢丽尔(Cheryl)的一段错误引述。)

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